Tag Archives: friendship

Why Spanish Women Should (and do) Wear Perfume

17 Jul

Sorry that its taken so long for me to update… before I came I thought that I would have more time, but I’ve been so focused on learning spanish and sight-seeing that I’ve barely had time to enjoy the tapas!

Before coming to Spain, I knew that Europeans kiss on the cheek when meeting someone for the first time, but for some reason I thought that my passport would give me immunity.b_w_humor_kiss_vintage_black_and_white_funny

Of course, my first day at work was a whirlwind of kissing and pleasantries. When I first got to the office, my co-worker took me around and introduced me to every single person.

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How to be Friends Without Creeping into the Mary Kate and Ashley Territory

7 May

I’m no friendship expert, but I think that the best friends are the ones that are most different from you.

I have a friend… we’ll call her “Kelsey”. While we’re at it, lets give her a really cute last name too… How about “Darling”?

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Kelsey and I are about as similar as MAC and NYC makeup brands (not NYX (for the uninitiated male go to this link (I think I’ll nest parentheses more often))).

She cleans the dishes, and I take too long to pull my clothes out of the laundry.

She’s five minutes early; I’m like the eagles that opportunely appear throughout the Lord of the Rings movies… just on time.

She subconsciously only buys earrings with triangle designs. I buy every cute pair of earrings I can find under $10.

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She hates my major. I hate her job.

What in the world could we possibly have in common?

We both like cheesecake, we’re both really good about maintaining the TP supply in our respective bathrooms, and we both enjoy dating Ryan Gosling (although neither of us has ever tried it).

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How to Make Enemies and be Influenced by People

5 Apr

If you’re not aware of Dale Carnegie’s Book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” I suggest you get out from under the rock you’ve been hiding under and make your way to a thrift store to find a copy (only the very best and worst books end up in thrift stores… have you ever noticed how many copies of the Bible, Harry Potter, and Twilight thrift stores have?).  Otherwise, check out this link.

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When my parents realized that I didn’t have any friends (in middle school) they bought me a copy.  I suppose that I’d grown out of the “Care and Keeping of Friends”  by American Girl and it was time to move on.

The book is oozing with great leadership tips and skills. A few drops managed to land on my computer screen today. Thankfully.

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Dale’s Tips (lets see if there are any shocking ideas…)

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Solid advice. If anyone is looking to make new friends, this is USUALLY the way to do it. Although I think that advice is considered “good” because it doesn’t come naturally for most people.

Unfortunately, I know a few people who are a little too natural at these things… If you lived by these tips you would be a selfless communicator which I s good ( I guess?) but no one would want to talk to you.

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People who smile too much are creepy.

People who listen too well seem to have no opinions.

People who say foreign names in an accent usually sound dumb (although I suppose it’s the effort that counts!)

As in everything, find a balance and be happy.  Thanks for the tips Dale!

15 Jan

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I got a Tinder and so Should You!

5 Jan

You have a match!

You would think that a good-looking, business school grad, who is confident enough to write, “I’m smarter, better looking, and morekissing couple fun than the guy before or after me” would be able to handle a little sarcasm right?

He said, “We both swiped right. Soulmates. ;)”

I said, “That depends on how often you swipe right.”

“You’re the first one ever.”

“Yeah right.”

No response. Nothing. 

Ladies, I’ve had a Tinder for 24 hours and I have well over 50 matches. If I was the “first one ever” then that guy isn’t doing tinder right. Being good at tinder isn’t hard, but in my short 24 hours I’ve discovered a few tips that will help anyone swipe their way to love in no time!

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5 Guys I Almost Dated (#3)

9 Dec

#3 Leonardo – Just Friends

Leonardo and I had an interesting relationship. I guess you could say we were friends, but it wasn’t a real friendship.

I chose the name Leonardo because he was REALLY good-looking (not quite as cute as Leonardo DiCaprio, but he was leonardoclose). We were in the same FHE group (if you don’t know what that is, ask a Mormon Friend)  my sophomore year and it was quickly apparent that Leonardo’s apartment was cool and all the girls in the group wanted to be their friends. The battle began.

We would invite them to a bonfire or tea party (they really liked holding and attending tea parties) and the other girls in the group would invite them over for dinner. We would then retaliate by throwing an exclusive 1920’s themed Murder Mystery Party. I’m not sure who won the battle, but it was a ridiculous alpha female competition and I feel dumb even writing about it.

Leonardo and I didn’t become friends until the end of the year. During our friendship, I felt like he was one of the few people I could talk to without being judged, yet we knew very little about each other. We rarely saw each other but when we did, we were able to pick up like we hung out regularly. It was a relationship built on respect, not time.

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Did you Actually say That?

14 Nov

So What?

Today, I gave a presentation in one of my classes that required 3-4 different sessions of written audience feedback.  I appreciated all the constructive feedback I received except for one comment.gossip

Some hot-shot guy wrote a note containing criticism along the lines of, “LISTEN! When we’re giving you feedback don’t talk about all of the things that you did wrong. Just listen to our feedback.”

It was good advice.
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Me in the year 2075

13 Nov

Me in the year 2075

Look carefully at the the 3rd row

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