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Whoever said that Women want Masculine Men Should Look at this Statistic

27 Mar


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I found this on so I think it’s fairly reputable.

EliteSingles did some investigating to see exactly what type of men and women are most desirable by other men and women. Ready for the kicker that might make the machismo in you want to do a little soul-searching and revamping, guys?


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A Letter To My Future Matchmaker

23 Mar

large loveOver the past few months, my love life has had all the tension of a romantic comedy without the payoff of a huge, white wedding for me to crash and steal the groom.

I’m only 24 years old so I’m not in a rush to find “the one” but It seems like every guy I’m interested in is an Olympian at “the game” and I haven’t worked out in a while.

I just want someone to split peanut butter and honey sandwiches with me.

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That’s where you, my emissary of affection, come in. Most women want a knight in shining armor, but I’m totally fine with the jester or even the hott stable boy. As long as he meets the following basic requirement:

1) He must have a “y” chromosome.

2) He must be funny, specifically sarcastic.

3) He needs to make money… somehow. As long as he doesn’t have the same profession as any of my previous boyfriends (lawyer, accountant, doctor, professional hocky player, and magician) or been impeached from a political office, we can make it work.

4) With my future posterity in mind, I prefer a man with equally sized nostrils, a Goldie-Locks approach to body hair –not too little and not too much– and an extra long lifeline on his palm (although, if it’s short we’ll just invest in a nice life insurance plan).

5) A widower with sweet children is preferred but I could handle hellians and a witchy ex-wife if necessary.

Some people say that “love don’t cost a thing,” but in this case, I’m prepared to pay-up: my pride, my tinder account, and an “I told you so” from my ex-best friend in middle school.

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No offense, but I hope that the next letter I write will be addressed to my future wedding planner. May Cupid and his co-angels be with you on your search.


Find a Mate for Kate

I’m Going to Make you an Offer You Cannot Refuse

31 Jan

I grew up on three creativity-inspiring things: popsicle stick crafts, papusas, and Jane Austen.

Over the years, in times of soul-searching and self discovery, I’ve relied on various Jane Austen-themed quizzes to help me determine my true identity (I tried Zodiac signs for a while, but fortune cookies ended up being more reliable, so I stopped).

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Unfortunately, the only thing that these divining quizzes proved was the fact that I’m an Austen chameleon.

When I’m in a “hard-to-get mood,” I’m Lizzie Bennett. When I find myself longingly remembering all of the guys I COULD have dated, I become Anne Elliot. And when I’m in the mood to selflessly make all around me others happy, I fancy myself as Emma Woodhouse.

emma woodhouseRight now I’m in an Emma mood. No, I’m not dating a man who is 15 years older than me and running around the village with my ditzy BFF who falls in love with every man who looks at her…  I’m in the mood to be a  matchmaker!

Although she tries many times, Emma never makes a successful match. I guess that one thing that we have in common. Nevertheless, we never stop trying (for anonymity sake, I’ve changed names):

Stacy and Cameron – He was a recently returned missionary and had a sexy little Latin American accent. She was a boy crazy, freckled, Spanish enthusiast.  I think they kissed at one point, but now she’s married to someone else and he is a Provo All-Star. Holla

Mable and Fred – He was boring. She was boring. Apparently two wrongs don’t make a right.

Sally and Jason – Sometimes two weird people aren’t quite weird enough to realize that being together would make them less weird.

Hannah and Tony – My leftovers pushed off onto a friend. He never asked her out and she didn’t care.

Lola and Jason – After the initial date he said that she was the “most beautiful girl in the world.” He’s pretty enthusiastic about it, but we’ll see what she thinks. Outcome: TBD

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What inspired this sudden urge to match?

Earlier this week, I logged onto BYU’s job placement website and right underneath opportunities at Sears, Vanguard, and Goldman Sacks this enticing title was posted:

“The LDS Matchmaker is hiring an Assistant Matchmaker to meet with singles one on one about our services and suggest matches for clients”

(If you’re interested more details can be found here

I firmly believe that it’s important to find job opportunities that stretch my skill set. Matchmaking is an obvious choice.

Although, I don’t have time to do the job right now, I’m interested in developing the skill set.

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This could be you!

Thus, I’ve decided to give you, my loyal readers, a chance to find true love and myself an opportunity for myself to build my resume.  If you:

  1. Invite 30 people to “like” Irresistible Girl on Facebook
  2. Pin, Instagram, or Tweet something from this blog (only one is necessary)
  3. Email me to let me know once you’ve finished! (on your honor)

I will match you with your soulmate!

This is an oportunity you won’t want to miss, what do you have to lose? True love is just a few clicks away…

**Men are eligible too (I have MANY cute girlfriends and all of them are Irresistible).

***You must live in Utah, San Diego, Virginia or be willing to travel to one of those places to be eligible (although I would LOVE it if you still invited 30 people to “like” the FB page)

I got a Tinder and so Should You!

5 Jan

You have a match!

You would think that a good-looking, business school grad, who is confident enough to write, “I’m smarter, better looking, and morekissing couple fun than the guy before or after me” would be able to handle a little sarcasm right?

He said, “We both swiped right. Soulmates. ;)”

I said, “That depends on how often you swipe right.”

“You’re the first one ever.”

“Yeah right.”

No response. Nothing. 

Ladies, I’ve had a Tinder for 24 hours and I have well over 50 matches. If I was the “first one ever” then that guy isn’t doing tinder right. Being good at tinder isn’t hard, but in my short 24 hours I’ve discovered a few tips that will help anyone swipe their way to love in no time!

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5 Guys I Almost Dated (#2.5)

13 Dec

#2.5 – Unknown – I Didn’t Leave it on the Court

I crushed so hard on the tall, dark, and handsome guy in my volleyball class freshmen year. Further Facebook stalking (it could have even been Myspace?) passed on the information that he was a tool, but my gitty, cafeteria-fed, homework loaded, liberated self, didn’t care.

vintage volleyball

I don’t think that we ever spoke, but he was the highlight of my Friday morning. I dug him more and more with every one of my hits that he blocked. My volleyball skills got better in that that class than they ever did when I played at GHS.

Although he never knew it, our song was, “Why?” by Secondhand Serenade.

It’s funny how music makes weird associations in your mind.  To this day whenever I hear that song, my heart spikes. I think of him.

And I still don’t know his name.


And that kills me


How I Hacked Online Dating

21 Oct

Its a little long and a little more tech related than I would usually sit through, but I think its worth a watch!

The Best Flirting Technique That I Learned From Boy-Band Pop

7 Jun

Infatuation.  The driving force behind a majority of modern pop music.

There are a million songs about every aspect of love.  The Chance Encounter. Flirting. Obsession. Marriage. Heartbreak.  Although most seem to yield feebly original content & lyrics, they manage to lure listeners in with a catchy new tune and a big name singer.

Anyway, in high school I loved this song.  Since I didn’t have much experience with boys, I loved this musical articulation of a cute guy’s infatuation for an amazing, fun, mysterious girl.  It was like crack for my mind.  For 4 minutes and 24 seconds I got a glimpse into his mind and I tried to analyze her successful flirting tactics. I would listen to it and think, How can I become like her? Completely irresistible to guys?

The answer is simple: Be hard to get.

Although it has a negative connotation, being hard to get is one of the best ways to attract guys because It’s the fuel for infatuation.

There are billions of women on this planet.  Many of them are smarter, prettier, funnier, and more talented than you.  Why would a guy want to choose you?

I don’t know.

And neither does he.

It isn’t your job to get a date by flirting shamelessly or talking about every single one of your life’s achievements, all you need to do is work on being Irresistible to yourself. The Big Secret? Become passionate about your life. When you’re passionate about your life, you give off a good vibe that attracts other people to you.  I don’t know why it works, but it does.

(Viola in She’s The Man = confident)

Be excited about your goals. Discover unusual hobbies.  Develop meaningful relationships.

When you live your life the way that YOU want to live it being “hard to get” is a natural side affect.  Many girls mistake manipulation or playing games for “being hard to get.”  There is a huge difference between building your confidence and attempting to mess with a guy’s emotions.  Frankly, I find those tactics to be immature, annoying, and damaging.

All you have to do is be excited about your life and interested in the lives of others.  Its the only sincere way to flirt.

If you feel like you lack confidence right now, don’t worry.  Confidence takes years to develop… I consider it to be one of those things that you always work on but never truly perfect.

I’m no expert in confidence, but one thing that has helped me a lot is to spend time thinking about all of the things that I love about myself: What difficult experiences have you overcome? What characteristics do you value about yourself? What do your friends think about you?

lips.jpgYou are unique, and special.  Own it.

20 Things to Ask BEFORE You Date Him

21 Mar

Let me begin by saying that I DON’T believe in over-thinking a relationship before it even begins. Too many girls do this and it ends up ruining a potentially good relationship in the initial stages. Thus it is with EXTREME CAUTION that I post these questions.

Dating is a process and I’m posting them because many girls who haven’t dated very much don’t know exactly what to look for when getting to know a guy. I encourage you to use them as guidelines for getting to know a guy better

What should you know?

NOT as a criteria for dismissing or giving up on him. If he doesn’t answer some of these questions the way that you want or expect, get to know him better to find out why.   Enjoy!

1) Have you ever heard him talk about his parents? If so, is he respectful?

2) Would he rather TALK to you than text?
3) Is he respectful toward you around his friends?
4) Does he give you more non-physical compliments than physical compliments?
5) Does he have a job to support himself?
6) Does he handle his money well?
7) Do you have the same beliefs when it comes what matters to you most?
8) Have you talked about short and long term goals?
9) Do these goals align?
10) Does he stop when you say “stop?”
11) Does he respect your body?
12) Do you know anything about his past relationships?
13) Does he know anything about your past relationships?
14) Do you feel comfortable when he’s around the people you are closest to?
15) Does he show an interest in the things you are interested in?
16) Is he willing to admit when he is wrong?
17) Is he a person of integrity (not willing to cheat, steal, or lie even if no one is looking)?
18) Is he sensitive towards people with disabilities, people who are elderly, etc.? Have you ever seen him help someone?
19)Do you feel safe around him? Do you feel that he would protect you in a time of need?
20) Do you feel that he will stand up for you? Do you feel good about standing up for him?

3 Stupid Things That Girls Do On Dates

18 Mar

1) Claiming that you’re tired – Claiming that you’re tired is only one example of the many excuses that girls use on dates.  If you ask a girl how a date went she will give you one of two responses: It was awesome! We had a great time and I really like him OR  It went alright BUT I was really ______ (fill in whatever excuse you want). Usually the blank is filled with something like, “I was tired OR I had a really rough week OR I don’t think that our personalities match very well.”  I don’t care if you had the worst week ever, only slept 2.34 hours the night before, or if your date was the most smelly, nerdy guy that ever watched Battlestar Gallactica; if you agree to go on a date with a guy then go and enjoy it without the excuseLook at the date as it really is: an opportunity to HAVE FUN with someone that you don’t know very well.  If you give up your excuses and just focus on having fun, I promise that the date will be a grate experience!

2) Being Insecure – I understand that confidence is something that isn’t learned over night and that dating can bring out some of your greatest insecurities but when you’re on a date try extra hard

Only use it once!

to show your confidence.  Although I don’t know you, I know that if you’re reading this blog then you’re interested in proactively changing your life and therefore you must be really cool.  Why not show this side to your date? You don’t need to worry so much about something going wrong or looking dumb or saying something silly, it honestly doesn’t matter.  All you need to remember is that you must stay true to yourself and do what you want to do.  If its a group date and you don’t know everyone there, go and introduce yourself to the unfamiliar people.  If your date says or does something that is awkward  make a joke out of it.  Share your opinions.  If you have to make a decision about something on the date follow this rule: for every decision that must be made you’re only allowed to say “I don’t care” one time.  After that, voice your true opinion about the decision.  If you don’t have a strong opinion then flip a coin, say ennie meanie minie mo, or do a thumb war to solve the problem and stick with your solution.

3) Acting Bored – This my friends, is the biggest reason that girls don’t get asked out on second dates.  For whatever reason we’re afraid that if we act too interested in a guy on a date, it means that we like him too much.  I have many opinions about why this mindset exists but I’ll save that rant for another time.  The point is that acting interested in a guy doesn’t mean that you really really like him.  If you go on a date and have fun but don’t VISIBLY show your date that you’re having fun, your date will think that you’re bored.  Even if you have no intention of going on another date with him you should do your best to have a good time.  It can be really hard to act interested in someone if you actually think that they’re cool because you get intimidated and feel like they have the upper hand (I’m going to write more about this later).  If you go on a date like that, remember this: every single person out there is struggling with something and although you don’t know what it is know that you can help them by giving them extra attention and positive affirmations about themselves.

I dare you to be above the mistakes that your fellow females make on dates.  Be cool and strive to be the Irresistible Girl by choosing one of these three things to apply when you go on your next date.

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