How to Make Enemies and be Influenced by People

5 Apr

If you’re not aware of Dale Carnegie’s Book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” I suggest you get out from under the rock you’ve been hiding under and make your way to a thrift store to find a copy (only the very best and worst books end up in thrift stores… have you ever noticed how many copies of the Bible, Harry Potter, and Twilight thrift stores have?).  Otherwise, check out this link.


When my parents realized that I didn’t have any friends (in middle school) they bought me a copy.  I suppose that I’d grown out of the “Care and Keeping of Friends”  by American Girl and it was time to move on.

The book is oozing with great leadership tips and skills. A few drops managed to land on my computer screen today. Thankfully.


Dale’s Tips (lets see if there are any shocking ideas…)

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Solid advice. If anyone is looking to make new friends, this is USUALLY the way to do it. Although I think that advice is considered “good” because it doesn’t come naturally for most people.

Unfortunately, I know a few people who are a little too natural at these things… If you lived by these tips you would be a selfless communicator which I s good ( I guess?) but no one would want to talk to you.


People who smile too much are creepy.

People who listen too well seem to have no opinions.

People who say foreign names in an accent usually sound dumb (although I suppose it’s the effort that counts!)

As in everything, find a balance and be happy.  Thanks for the tips Dale!


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